In graduate school it seemed like every class we discussed “the third eye perspective.” This means to see ourselves from other people’s point of view. In my early years with multiple sclerosis I was secretive and did not share my situation with anyone outside of my family and a few close friends. I didn’t want to lose my job. I did not want favoritism. Accommodations for multiple sclerosis in my life were out of the question. I was receiving the same pay as my co-workers and I would meet the same expectations. That attitude lasted all of a few years. MS demands accommodations at times.
Today I use the third eye perspective in seeing my world from other’s point of view to determine how I am affecting their lives. My goal is to put on make-up, jewelry, and do my hair even though the only person I may see that day is my husband. He deserves to see me at my fullest potential and if that means I have the energy to look nice for him, I feel the need to do that. When someone asks me how I am doing, I understand the first words I say are the impression they have of me so a positive response leads to other’s happiness and perspective of me. Dragging my friends and family down with complaints does no good. That isn’t to say that I never share the negative with others. I simply try to keep it from being the first thing I say, the main topic of our conversation, or the first thought that comes to mind when someone sees me. I’m not multiple sclerosis. I am a happy person with more than MS to talk about.
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